Meet the family

I’m back.  Did you miss me?

The last two days have been all about the family, hence no write ups and no photos posted.  Friday was devoted purely to Myself, Lucinda, Éowyn and Amélie.  We spent the whole day together getting to know each other as a family quartet with only one visitor, my friend Andy.

This we thought was especially important for Éowyn as she is the one that is probably going to be affected the most without the necessary intellect to understand why this tiny crying thing is taking up so much of mommy and daddy’s time.  Fortunately, I think she is also too tiny to be jealous or spiteful.  In fact, she has been a wonderful big sister.  If Amélie is in her moses basket and begins to cry, Éowyn will go over to her and try to calm her.  That is by one of two methods, either saying “Shhh!” or gently stroking her tummy.  Although she hasn’t quite got her tongue around her little sister’s name yet, and calls her ‘Amémie‘.

Éowyn also likes to hold Amélie.  She will sit on the sofa and put a cushion on her lap.  We have told her to put her arm out to support Amélie’s head and neck and it seems to have sunk in. Éowyn will usually only hold Amélie for a couple of minutes, and gently stroke her tummy and give her tender kisses.  It is very sweet.  However, when Amélie is crying uncontrollably Éowyn will put her fingers in her ears and look pleadingly at us saying, “Noisy, noises.” We have to agree!

Amélie still hasn’t settled into any kind of routine and seems to suffer from wind (colic) more at night than in the day, so myself and Lucinda are surviving on very little sleep at the moment.  The infacol has begun to work but she still seems colicky at night.  One of my friends has also recommended colief, which is quite pricey but a small price for a good night’s sleep and more importantly a daughter that is not in pain.  Thanks Clare!  We’ll let you know how we get on with it.

Saturday was definitely a day for family.  Nanny Fran and Auntie Liz came down from West Bromwich, Auntie Mary came over from Woking and Uncle Steve, Auntie Zoe and Megan and Finley also came to visit the newest member of the family.  The sales of biscuits and tea bags in the Staines area has increased considerably this past week.  Thank goodness we have a dishwasher, 30 minutes on eco-cycle and we have a constant stream of clean cups.  I think that Éowyn is enjoying the visitors as much (if not more) than we are, for she is getting just as many presents as Amélie and everyone wants to talk to her.  We never cease to find it amazing how generous everyone is.  Thank you all.

Nanny Fran and Auntie Liz stayed down south (it is OK they have had their injections) the night (stopping at Lucinda’s parents), so there were more munches and a chance for Éowyn to play with them before they headed back up the M40.  Éowyn was so excited to see her Nanny Fran and especially her Auntie Liz.  When she saw them coming down the path she literally begun a little dance of joy.  Obviously she does not see as much of my mom compared to Lucinda’s parents but we try to Skype at least once a week and whenever Éowyn pretends to be on the phone invariably it tends to be Nanny Fran.

There was still room in the schedule for more visitors before Sunday evening.  Uncle Michael popped round with Cristina, Lauren and Maddie and Lucinda’s Auntie Diane and Auntie Sally with cousin Lucy popped round to welcome the new edition.  Amélie has now meet all her Uncles and Aunties and a number of Great-Uncle and Great Aunties.  So for less than a week old she is doing pretty well!

Last night we thought that the colic had gone.  Amélie when down after her bedtime feed and didn’t stir until after 0300 which was just over 4.5 hours.  ‘Great!’ we thought.  We could have a good night.  Nope, she did not settle at all after her feed.  Lucinda took her downstairs as took Amélie downstairs at the same time yesterday and I was getting up at 0700 to take Éowyn to Jo (our childminder) for 0800.  At least Lucinda has had a little rest this morning (not enough obviously, but some).  I have done the house husbandly duties and the fridge is stocked and meals have been prepared and while Lucinda waits for the midwife, I will be heading back to Jo’s to pick our firstborn up.

Hopefully I will be able to add more photos tomorrow but for those of you who are new visitors to the website, do not forget that there are plenty of photos on the Flickr site that you can access but clicking on the photo in the right hand column or alternatively clicking here.

Just a footnote that since Éowyn has learnt to say “Boing. Boing, Baggies Baggies!” (I am a cruel father) West Bromwich Albion haven’t lost and are currently sitting pretty in 6th place.  It is too early in season to glean anything from that but quite a nice thing for Amélie to have been born when your team are playing attractive football and high up in the table.  This has probably put the collybosh on the team, especially since we are playing Manchester United at Old Trafford next and for that I apologise to the whole Baggies fraternity.

Peace and love

Baggie

Meet your sister

Last night was a small reminder of what it was like to be new parents.  Poor Amélie did not settle until 03:00 and for 99% of that time she was crying.  We knew what is was (wind) but there was not a lot we could do.  Tummy massage, rubbing and patting her back and pumping her legs were all tried and failed.  Eventually, either they did work or it just passed naturally either way it meant a very stinky nappy change in the early hours.  Hope you weren’t eating.  Thankfully she did settle after that and apart from a feed at 06:30 we managed to get some semblance of sleep.

So today was the big day.  The day that our family of four began its journey together.  Nanny and Granddad brought Éowyn round to meet her new sister. I opened the door and Éowyn bounded through the door, as she had not seen her parents for the previous two days, “Hello Mommy, Hello Daddy,” she said.  “Oh! Mommy’s baby!” she pointed at Amélie.  And that was that.

Nanny and Granddad came round with Lucinda’s Uncle John and Auntie Margaret, who have flown over from Sydney and so became Amélie’s first visitors.  She was on her best behaviour and so was Éowyn.  We had bought Éowyn a baby born so that she also had a baby and I am sure that the delivery of it was far more traumatic than Amélie.  The amount of wires and packaging meant that it took quite a while to set it free, which is always difficult when you have a small child eagerly waiting for it.

Our visitors left us after a cup of tea and some biscuits in time for lunch and our first meal together.  However before we prepared lunch we thought it was about time that Éowyn got to know her little sister.  So we got her to sit on the sofa with a cushion on her lap and then we laid Amélie on the cushion.  Éowyn was a good as gold and sat there holding her hand and kissing her very gently on the forehead.

Éowyn had her afternoon nap and quite fortuitously the midwife chose that time to pay us our first visit. This allowed us, and her, to concentrate on Amélie.  Nothing seemed to be a concern, although Amélie is showing signs of neonatal jaundice.  Perfectly normal in 2 day old babies as their livers are not fully working and should disappear by the end of their first week.  The cure is sunlight, which may be easier said than done when they have forecast heavy rain for tomorrow.  Éowyn, also suffered from it, but not enough to warrant the UV lamp treatment (for she was in hospital and far from a good source of sunlight).  The midwife will return on Monday to make sure that all is well.

After school, Amélie’s cousins, Lauren and Maddie, came round to see the new addition to the family.  They had been keen to see her yesterday but because of the delay in being discharged we asked that they come today.  Éowyn also likes playing with her older cousins and was quite excited to see them.  It is nice to be part of such a close knit family.  Both Lauren and Maddie got a cuddle, while Éowyn sat close by to keep an eye on them.

This evening it was just the four of us again.  Éowyn has insisted on holding Amélie on a number of occasions and rather than the temper tantrum or feigned oblivity (if there is such a word) I think it is more likely that Éowyn will need to be held back from showing too much interest in her little sister.

As Amélie is seemingly settling down (the infacol is working – fingers crossed) we have decided to try and get an early night and catch up on the sleep we haven’t had and prepare ourselves for that we may not.

The first of the cards have arrived and we thank you early birds, it is very kind of you.  As you may have noticed I am trying to do an update a day at the moment.  They may not continue but please keep popping by for new photos here and on our Flickr page.

Peace and love

Baggie

Another Quick update

Another day off, this is becoming a habit!  This time the lawn has been mown.  It was starting to resemble a jungle for it has been quite a while since it was last cut and August has been good grass growing weather  It is no word of a lie that I took the strimmer to it before I even attempted to use the lawnmower!  I’m not proud of that but as you know I have not been at home much and I don’t think the neighbours would take too kindly to me mowing at 0100.  Plus I am pretty sure that I would not do a good job in total darkness.  Admittedly if you look at the lawn now you would probably say that I haven’t done a good job full stop, but at least it is of a respectable length.  It is all too grown up for me!

Tuesday, the last day of August, we had our first day off together as a family for the first time since our holiday in Italy at the end of June.  Throughout July Lucinda had worked each weekend while I worked each weekday and throughout August, as you know, I have worked.  It was really nice to be together as a family and spend some time together as a threesome before the new baby makes its entrance.  Hopefully now that the majority of the hard work has been done and the new workload becomes routine we can settle back into a routine of our own.

It has been nice for me to be able to read Éowyn her three (yes three) bedtime stories again.  However, gone are the old favourites of ‘The Gruffalo’, ‘The Whale and the Snail’, ‘A Squash and a Squeeze’, and ‘Room on the Broom’ for classics like ‘The Gingerbread Man’.  In fact, I am a little perturbed that she seems to favour ‘The Gingerbread Man’ it hasn’t exactly got a happy ending, unless you are the sly old fox. ‘Not my gumdrop buttons!’  At least it is better than reading the ‘In the Night Garden books’, I just can’t compete with Sir Derek Jacobi’s oration of Makka Pakka, Akka Wakka, Mikka Makka Moo, Makka Pakka Appa Yakka, Ikka Akka, Ooo!

Éowyn’s favourite pastime at the moment though is visiting mommy pig at the bottom of Nanny and Granddad’s garden.  That sounds strange, but at the back of Lucinda’s parents’ garden there is, what amounts to, a small holding.  There are some goats, a sheep and until recently a pig.  However, the pig is now a mommy pig and has 7 little piglets.  Éowyn is fascinated with them and keeps picking up windfall apples from the garden and running to the pig.  When she is there she launches the apple into the pen shouting “PIG! APPLE!”  It is hilarious and it is not just with the pig.  Lucinda took her round the lake to feed the ducks.  There she was standing at the shore throwing the bread into the water shouting “DUCKS! BREAD!”  Perhaps my daughter has a future as a zookeeper.  Somehow “ÉOWYN! PEAS!” doesn’t quite work.

Éowyn has become much more comfortable on the phone.  There was a time that she would be jabbering away but as soon as you put the phone next to her she would clam up.  Not any more.  She will quite happily chat to you down the phone, and has left messages on Nanny Fran’s answerphone and spoke to me at work telling me that she had drawn on her legs (see photos below).

Time is precious so I will not bore you any longer, enjoy the photos and stay tuned.  Lucinda is officially on maternity leave now so the countdown has truly begun.

Peace and Love

Baggie