Amélie’s Second Birthday

So a couple of weeks after we announced to the world that we are expecting our third child, our second child celebrated her second birthday.  Yes can you believe that Amélie is 2 years old.  This time in 2010 we were on the way to St. Peter’s hospital and thankfully the road conditions were not the same as they were this year as there were road closures and heavy traffic around the area and I can’t imagine trying to battle your way through heavy traffic with a wife in the latter stages of labour!

As a modern father I have (so far) managed to be off work on all of my children’s birthdays and Amélie’s second one was no exception, in fact I managed to organise myself the entire weekend off.  Amélie’s birthday was last Friday and on Fridays Éowyn goes to pre-school and this Friday was no exception.  However before we took Éowyn to pre-school she helped Amélie to open her birthday presents.  Amélie obvious wasn’t entirely sure why she had presents but didn’t care too much as her big sister opened a Peppa Pig treehouse and nothing else then mattered.  We did manage to wrestle it from her grasp so that we could take Éowyn to school before heading out for the day’s adventure.

With the impending third baguette due in March we have come to realise that Lucinda’s Nissan Micra is not going to cope with three car seats.  In fact, most cars have difficulty fitting three car seats in, hence the proliferation of MPVs on the market.  Unfortunately most MPVs simply replace the boot (trunk for my American readers) with two seats.  This obviously is handy and does allow extra car seat space, unfortunately it usually means that there is no boot (or trunk) space, which when you have pushchairs and the general accoutrements that goes with children is a real disadvantage.  Not all MPVs are made equal though and the balance is to find one large enough to accommodate the three car seats and the progeniture paraphernalia without feeling that you are driving a van (especially when you have been used to driving a Micra) and, possibly more importantly, without breaking the bank.

The model that seems to tick the majority of the boxes is the Ford S-Max (not only does it have seven seats and boot space but it is wide enough to get three car seats across the middle row meaning that as a family of five we could keep the back two seats down turning it into a very large estate car). So it was with this in mind that we took a trip to Car Giant in Shepherd’s Bush to look at their current crop. Unfortunately none of the ones that they had in seemed to be right and when you are spending that kind of money it needs to be right.  There was one that had caught our eye when we looked at their internet site but unfortunately in real life this particular individual did not inspire love and affection from either of us so we decided that we would walk away and keep looking there are plenty more S-Maxes in the sea.

Returning back home, we picked Éowyn up from pre-school and then Amélie completed her birthday day at home playing with her new toys with her big sister.  It is probably the first time that Amélie has things that Éowyn really wanted and I think that Amélie realised this and suddenly became very possessive of her presents.  Time for a lesson in sharing, for both of our children.

A relaxed Friday afternoon melted into an equally relaxed Saturday morning.  However there was a big family outing planned for the evening.  Hollycombe Working Steam museum, near Liphook in Hampshire is, as the name suggests, a working steam museum with an Edwardian steam-driven fairground alongside the obligatory steam train and traction engines.  It is open all summer long and although it closes for the winter in September and October it opens for evening admission which, with the autumnal dark nights, adds a magical element to the fairground.  It is somewhere that Lucinda’s family try and visit each year but unfortunately we have not been able to make it for the last three years for one reason or another, in fact the last time we visited Éowyn was a baby.

We arrived at Hollycombe about an hour or so before it opened and Lucinda’s dad fired up the camping stove and cooked us all sausage and bacon sandwiches.  We provided desert with Amélie’s birthday cake (a cake that she was unable to eat because it contained milk – so she had her own chocolate brownies that Lucinda made especially for her) before buying our tickets and heading into the museum.  As we entered the museum we noticed that the steam train was running.  This was the first time it had been running on an evening that the family had visited and therefore it was too good an opportunity to miss, so we paid our £2 and climbed onboard.  This really whetted the girls’ appetites for the fair and so after disembarking we headed to the full size carousel.  Again both girls thoroughly enjoyed it and Amélie didn’t want to get off.  Fortunately there were plenty of children’s rides for them, a junior roundabout, juvenile dobbies, austin cars and the children’s chair-o-planes and they enjoyed all four.  We were unsure how they would react to the chair-o-planes but we need not of feared, they loved it!  In fact it was a bit of a struggle to get them off each ride and more than once they were the only children on the ride and made the operator send them round twice.  I would thoroughly recommend a night trip to Hollycombe for kids, young and old and imagine what it must have been like for your great-grandparents visiting one of these at the turn of the 20th Century.

We ended the weekend in style at the Village Centre in Englefield Green at a joint 4th birthday party for Éowyn and the other children from our N.C.T. group.  It was just coincidence that is was 2 days after Amélie’s birthday, it was planned to be somewhere in the middle of the span of the N.C.T.’s group’s birthdays.  The Village Centre was a great venue for the party and was just the right size for the group that we had invited, it felt cozy without feeling too crowded and had plenty of room for games.  Sharing a children’s party certainly takes the pressure (and the expense) off one family.  We all had responsibilities for different aspects of the catering and we all organised one mass participant game each.  As a consequence of sharing these responsibilities it meant that the stress was reduced (or at least shared across six sets of parents) and thus as a parent you could actually enjoy your child’s party.  There were tears (it wouldn’t be a children’s party without them) but on the whole the children were very well behaved and we keep them entertained long enough to prevent any serious altercations.  It was good to meet up with our N.C.T. group even though it was difficult to sit down and chat for any length of time,as a parent that is something that is now second nature.

Now work beckons and my mini break is over, the wide world of sport stops for no man, but before I leave you just an update on Éowyn’s quasi corporeal companions (imaginary friends to you and I).  Dizzy, it seems, it a naughty boy but no bad deed goes unpunished.  The other day Éowyn calmly informed us that Dizzy was in hospital.  He had tiptoed out of the house and got squished by a car.  Do not fear he is alright but it seems that his place in Éowyn’s affections has been relegated slightly and now there is a new brother called Connor.  Connor it seems looks like an old man in a paper hat.  When I suggested that Connor was an old man I was rebuked, ‘No Daddy, he just looks like an old man.‘  So now you know.  He also will only wake up if you speak to him in Russian.  Éowyn’s quasi corporeal companions are not limited to people, Russian or otherwise, she currently has a cat called Stephanie and a dog called Giggly.  Either she has a fantastic imagination or she can see things that are hidden to us cynical adults.

Peace and Love

Baggie

 

And then there were three

Not the 1978 album by Genesis but the news that Lucinda and I have been keeping to ourselves over the wettest summer in a century:

Lucinda is Pregnant

Yes, we are expecting our third child on 10th March 2013, just over a week before my 40th birthday.  I will therefore keep this update short and to the point and leave a detailed update of our general news for another day.  You will notice that Baguette no.3 already has its own page under Amélie’s in the sidebar, they are already part of the family and to prove that they are part of the family its first photos are below (two photos but only one baby).

Peace and love

Baggie, Lucinda, Éowyn and Amélie

Baguette Number Three
Baguette Number Three

 

OK, this was meant to be a short write up and some of you that all ready knew about the above may wonder why there has been a little delay in posting this good news.  We were due to post this at the beginning of last week when we had told parents, siblings and our respective colleagues and managers, however just before all those people had been told we received the phone call that everyone dreads to receive: that our results indicate a higher the normal risk that our little one could suffer from Down’s Syndrome.

When you go for your 12 week scan (in the UK) there are three tests that are conducted to check for chromosomal abnormalities, most commonly Down’s Syndrome.  They are the fetal nuchal translucency test (which checks for the fluid beneath the fetal skin in the region of the neck) and this is done during the ultrasound scan.  The other two tests are biochemical tests of the mother’s blood and are to measure two ‘pregnancy’ hormones: free beta-hCG (human chorionic gonadotropin hormone) and PAPP-A (Pregnancy Associated Plasma Protein-A).

In a baby with Down’s syndrome the fetal nuchal translucency will be larger than normal (i.e. >2.9mm), the free beta-hCG levels will be higher than normal while the PAPP-A will be lower than normal.  These results are then added to the mother’s age and they give you a probability of chromosomal abnormalities.  These tests are indicative but not definitive however are there to help to give you an informed choice.  Any mother with a risk of less that 1 in 150 is contacted by the medical team to offer further invasive testing.  We were given a 1 in 70 chance.

Obviously this was a bit of a kick in the guts but both were of an opinion that we needed to know and so opted for a more invasive test.  There were two tests offered to us: Chorionic Villus Sampling (CVS) and Amniocentesis.  Both have a similar miscarriage risk and both are in the region of 99.9% accurate.  CVS involves taking a sample of the placenta while amniocentesis involves taking a sample of the amniotic fluid.  The main difference between the two (for us) was that the CVS test could be done within the week and we could get the results 4-5 days later.  The Amniocentesis can only be done between 16-20 weeks gestation (i.e in 3 weeks time) and there is a 1-2 week waiting time.

We travelled to St George’s Hospital in Tooting (South West London) for the procedure, which involves a detailed ultrasound scan followed by the procedure itself.  The procedure involves using the ultrasound scanner to guide a long slender needle through the abdomen into the placenta.  It probably looks worst that it was and in fact Lucinda said that the procedure wasn’t painful but uncomfortable.  However, afterwards she felt a little woozy and had to lie down and compose herself before we made the journey back.  The detailed ultrasound didn’t show any obvious problems but the placenta sample was the important test.  

Each human cell nucleus (not quite each but this isn’t a biology lesson) usually contains 23 pairs of chromosomes, which are thread-like structures that contain the DNA molecules.  The common chromosomal abnormalities are that are tested for are caused by extra copies of chromosomes.  Our sample would be tested for Patau Syndrome (trisomy 13, i.e. 3 copies of chromosome 13); Edwards Syndrome (trisomy 18) as well as the more common Down’s Syndrome (trisomy 21). 

While we were at St George’s we were asked (and we consented) if they could also take a sample of Lucinda’s blood to compare with the placenta sample as part of a research project that is hoping to be able to detect fetal cells in the blood samples taken from the mother.  If these tests can be developed then there would be no need for such invasive procedures that put the baby at risk for they will be able to test the fetus’ cells rather than relying on hormonal levels in the mother’s bloodstream.

As you can imagine the wait for the results was horrendous, even when you were trying to block it out it would come back with vengeance, it was always there lurking in the background.  We were told that if there was a chromosomal abnormality we would be told more quickly that if there were no issues as the abnormality would show up quickly in the first set of tests.  If these first tests were clear then they would conduct a second and then third round of tests just to be certain.  So we hoped that we would not hear for the full 4 to 5 days (by our reckoning late Thursday or Friday).

So imagine how we felt when St George’s called before that Thursday afternoon deadline (a deadline that only really existed in our heads); I think we both went as white as sheets and our hearts pounded when the rang to give us the results.  Then imagine how relieved and happy we were when then said that they were pleased to inform us that the placental tests showed no chromosomal abnormalities, our little bubba was going to be fine and we should continue the remainder of the pregnancy as any normal third pregnancy.

One pleasant side effect of chromosomal testing is that they can determine the sex of the child.  We were given the option of finding out and we decided that we would like to know and therefore share we you dear readers.  Our third child will be a boy.  Both of us feel that with two daughters and now a son this will make our family complete.

Peace and Love

Baggie

Back to school, back to reality

It has been a little while since the last update and for that I apologise but there are extenuating circumstances that will be hopefully become clear in the next few weeks. As an appetiser I thought I would do a quick update just to bring you up to speed with the current goings on at chez Bagnall.

September has started in a similar manner to how August ended for me, i.e. extremely busy at work.  It is the start of the football seasons and with new clients on board my department is busier than ever, so work has be leeching my time therefore any spare time has once again been directed at family rather that cyberspace and this website, which I am sure you will agree is a much better use of my time!

September is also the start of a new school year, Éowyn’s last at pre-school (Playbox) and, come January, Amélie’s first, the family is growing up!  In fact Éowyn is growing up as well as getting older.  She is about 3 feet 7 inches (108cm) which puts her about the 95th centile on the UK height chart and as such is rapidly growing out of her bed.  We bought her a cot bed when she was born that should last until she was 7 years old (according to the blurb).  However when Éowyn lies down, there is no longer a great deal of room for her toes.  With this is mind we are going to buy her a new bed in the next couple of months.  We are trying to decide whether to buy her a normal single bed, a bunk bed (for her and Amélie) or a cabin bed with storage underneath.  Since Éowyn is the one that is going to have to sleep in it (and probably from many years) we asked her for her input.  The conversation went something like this:

If you had a new bed, what kind of bed would you like?

Daddy, if I had a new bed I would like a monster bed.

What’s a monster bed?

It is made of bones, with skeleton heads and ghosties on it.

Sounds cool, but why do you want a bed like that?

So that when my friends come round they will see my bed and be scared.

It seems that unwittingly I am raising a goth, a Satanist or possibly an evil scientist or some combination of all three.  It could be possible that she is being influenced by her quasi-corporeal companion, for he is still around although I have not yet found out what he looks like.  Dizzy (as you may recall is his name) doesn’t sound like a particular nice character, for the other day he was scaring away all of her other ‘pretend friends‘ (as she calls them).  ‘How many pretend friends do you have?’ I asked.  ‘Hundreds’ she replied.  A very popular girl is our Éowyn.

Last weekend was my first weekend off since June and by some miracle the weather was glorious (a sign surely that the kids are back at school).  So we organised a picnic on Barnes common with friends of mine from university Andy and Máire and their children.  It was the first time that our two oldest girls (they were born within a couple of weeks of each other) had really had a chance to play with each other, for we do not meet up that often despite the fact that we do not live that far apart.  Considering they do not know each other they are still of an age where they do not have that reservation that older kids and adults have and just get on and play with each other.  Perhaps not bosom-buddy well and with half an eye their own possessions but nevertheless it was good to see them play together and even more so when we returned to Andy and Máire’s house and Éowyn and Amélie could really investigate other children’s toys.  We can all relate to that!

As I mentioned above, Wednesday, saw Éowyn’s first day back at pre-school for what will be her last years before starting school proper.  It was a family outing to take her to school on her first day.  Myself, Lucinda and Amélie all stood with Éowyn in playground waiting for the school doors to open.  As more and more of Éowyn’s friends turned up Éowyn left the three of us and ran off to play with her friends. Now, the games of three year olds can sometimes be a little incomprehensible to those that have left childish ways behind, but many of you will recognise the running around and screaming game.  At 08:55 this seems to be a very popular game in the school playground and Éowyn and her friends were thoroughly enjoying themselves.  Unfortunately, Amélie, does not know the rules of this game and did not seem to realise that it was actually a game and became defensive of her big sister.  So when Éowyn ran to the safety of Mommy and Daddy’s legs and strange children were chasing her and screaming Amélie got all aggressive, misinterpreting the game and hugged her big sister with all her strength shouting at the other children, ‘No! My Éowyn!‘  It was very cute to see such sororal love reaffirmed to both of us that we have less worries about sending Amélie to pre-school as we did when we first sent Éowyn.

With a new term came the realisation that both girls needed new shoes.  So a trip to Clarks was called for and the preparation of parting with a serious wodge of cash for something that they grow out of so quickly.  Nevertheless it is something that is obviously very important and not to be treated as a luxury moreover a necessity.  So we headed off to Kingston and one of the larger Clarks shoe shops in the area.  With hindsight probably not the best time to shop for children’s shoes.  The shoe department was overrun by people with the same idea.  We took our ticket and waited in line.  Éowyn and Amélie looked through the shows to see what styles they liked and Amélie tried on the biggest pair of shoes that she could find and wandered around the shop!  When it finally came our turn Éowyn measured a 10G and Amélie a 7F, both considerably bigger than their current footwear.  We indicated the styles that we liked and waited for the assistant to return with the shoes.  Not only did they not have the shoes that we wanted in either of the girls’ sizes, they didn’t have any shoes in those sizes.  None of the nearby shops had shoes in those sizes either – the school rush had obviously denuded the stock of children’s shoes in the vicinity.  So an order was placed and the girls will have to squeeze their feet in their current shoes for another week or so.

The family beckons so I will leave you here, with an apology for the paucity of photos below I promise to make amends in the next write up.

Peace and Love

Baggie